This
semester, for my volunteering hours, I chose to spend my five hours at a local
government housing facility in Bristol, cleaning/cooking for, and simply
spending time with the older generation who resides there. My five hours has
been spread over the past two weekends and I hope that I will find the time to
continue my work there, and not let this be the end of my volunteering there.
Over the last two weekends, I have
swept, mopped, and dusted the apartments of both an elderly man and elderly
woman living within this governmental apartment complex. I have also helped to
prepare and serve their dinner to them. More importantly than both of the
actions stated above, I have been able to talk to them, or more accurately
listen to them, and learn more about their lives and where they came from. I
would sit on the couch and they would sit in their recliners and they would
describe to me the world that their eyes saw as they were growing up.
The elder man spoke of his many
sibling, 8 to be exact, and how they would run around town as small children
and get into all kinds of mischief. He also tells me of the hardships that he
has endured, and how he got all of those rough calluses covering his hands. He
talked to me about his roofing business and the friendships that opened up to
him. He told me about meeting his wife for the first time, and trying to
capture her attention by making her jealous. He told me how they ran away from
home when he was 21 and she was 15, and got married. He laughed as he described
the first dinner that she had ever made for them, remembering how badly she scorched
the beans and burned the cornbread, and how he ate every single bite anyway, 2
servings of each to be exact. He talked about watching his kids grow and have
children of their own, and how he didn’t feel old enough to be a grand-father
with the oldest getting ready to turn 27. His laugh was infectious and his
stories were captivating. Just listening to him you could almost taste the
blueberry bread pudding that his mom used to make when he was little.
The woman that I was able to sit
with and talk to told me about her brothers growing up and how they had always picked
on her. She remembers them tugging on her braided pigtails and trying to steal
her glasses. She tells me of the picnics that her “momma” and “pop” used to
take her on. She says if she tries really hard she can still smell magnolia
trees and feel the warm sun on her skin. She remembers her whole family coming
together for Christmas and how excited her and her brothers were when they received
oranges and bananas in their stockings. She tells me about her husband and how
when they were still “courting” he talked of joining the army. She was only 16
at the time and she feared that if he enlisted, she would not be able to see
him anymore. She voiced her fears, he agreed, and they too eloped in the middle
of the night when everyone else was sleeping. They made it back before daybreak
and kept their marriage a secret for 3 weeks before finally telling her mother.
She says that she had such a good life, and she misses those she has lost, but
now at the sprite young age of 94, she would not give back a single day.
I am so glad that this is the place
I chose to spend my volunteering time. Both of those discussed above said that
they do not receive many visitors and family phone calls are few and far between.
I could tell that just by listening, I had given them something that they had
so been longing for. I have learned so much from them, even in this short time.
I have learned the importance of hard work and never feeling you are too good
to do anything. I have learned what love looks like and how important it is to
stand up for what you believe in. More than anything, I have learned the
importance of listening; truly listening, not just enough to respond.
Volunteering is meant to help
people, and I learned that even the simple act of showing someone that you care
and that what they have to say matters, is one way of helping them.
“Helping one person may not change
the world, but it could change the world for one person.” - Anonymous